Have you truly forgiven?
The typical energy that the word Forgiveness or Forgiving carries stems from the notion that you are 'sparing' and in essence forgetting the vibration related to a person who may have been the reason for causing you some sort of discomfort. Yet, you keep facing circumstances where you come face to face with a similar experience, and you wonder why that happened even after 'consciously' forgiving someone. So, did you really forgive?
With my recent experiences of awakening, and awakening to my shadow self especially, I have come to understand the deeper meaning of the word 'forgive'. Reflecting upon situations where I was hurt and broken from this newer perspective, I realized that in the act of 'forgiving' someone or the situation, I really just buried the pain somewhere within and was more compassionate to the one who hurt me compared to my own self. What a revelation! I valued the fact that the other person was naive or coming from a place of pain, but did not value the way I had felt or even honored what I had felt. So, this made me come to a place where I actually revisited some of these situations from a newer vibration, a broader perspective (and that only happens effortlessly when you ground, meditate, and practice appreciation), and from this point of view, I felt sure enough about myself and soothed the Malavika in those scenarios. I cried, A LOT, I have cried my heart out. Crying is one of the many ways your body releases resistant energy and I vouch for it!
I finally acknowledged what I felt and how I felt, forgave my own self for internalizing those situations, and making them a part of my identity. I accepted the situations and the people from this newer perspective for making me realize some of the core values I have in my life now, and that is:
- Someone else does not get to decide how happy I should be, it is in my hands.
- Someone else does not get to decide my worth, it is in my hands.
- Someone else does not get to decide how much I should care or empathize, it is in my hands
- Someone else does not get to decide how I must love, it is in my hands.
- Someone else does not get to bring me down, it is in my own hands!
I also realized that, valuing and acknowledging what I felt did not necessarily mean I had to share it with others, that is definitely a helpful way to go about but doesn't have to be the only way!
All of this also led me to understand that, someone who does us ill, might be someone we might have hurt intentionally or unintentionally in this lifetime or a previous lifetime. They are still carrying that energy in their soul. So, ask for forgiveness from them. Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian tradition of forgiveness or reconciliation. It goes like this:
I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
You may assign a personality to the situation as well if it's not a person, for ex: you can address it as your relationship with confidence - maybe in some lifetime or as a young one you were forced upon the idea that being confident is being aggressive and is not the quality of a 'good leader/person'. So, by practicing Ho'oponopono, you forgive yourself and the situation, and you truly 'heal' the energy with love, and release it to the universe to bring you the transmuted positive energy back into your life.
Forgiveness isn't justifying anyone or anything at all, it helps you to release your own self from the chains of pain, to unburden and liberate yourself, so that YOU may align with the true beauty that your soul is.
